Mothering While Reparenting Myself

 There’s a duality in this parenting journey that no one really prepared me for. 

I’m raising my children with intention…
while learning how to love the parts of me that were never properly raised.

This is what it means to mother while reparenting myself.

It’s crying behind a closed door because I snapped too quickly.
Not because I’m a bad mother, but because I’m still learning what patience feels like when you didn’t grow up receiving it.

It’s apologizing to my kids,
not because I want to seem perfect,
but because I want them to know that being human and accountable can coexist.

It’s feeding them food I never got as a child.
Real, nourishing food with intention.
While learning how to nourish my own body too,
without guilt or neglect.

Some days I feel like I’m doing it.
Breaking cycles.
Being present.
Responding instead of reacting.
Loving loudly.
Offering space.
Raising with rhythm instead of rush.

Other days?
I feel triggered, exhausted, stretched, and raw.
I feel like the little girl inside of me is still begging to be seen.
Still asking,
“Why didn’t anyone hold me like this?”

But I keep going.
Because I know every deep breath I take instead of yelling…
every “I’m sorry” I offer instead of shutting down…
every bedtime story, every affirmation, every hug…
is healing both of us.

Mothering while reparenting myself means I am my child’s teacher
and my own student
at the very same time.

It means I’m rewriting stories in real time.
It means I’m offering myself grace just as much as I offer it to them.

It means the little girl in me and the children I’m raising
are all being loved at the same time.

And that, to me,
is sacred.

This is why Sankofa Mamas Club exists.
For the ones breaking patterns while creating new ones.
For the mamas who are parenting with presence and healing with prayer.
For the women doing deep work so their children don’t have to carry the same wounds.

If you’re mothering while reparenting yourself…
You don’t have to do it alone.
You belong here.

Join us 

https://discord.gg/JGvSmtW6

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